About Me

A big Hi and Thank You to all of you following and visiting body, remember. The process of writing my first novel has turned into one of the great joys of my life, and it’s wonderful to share the ride! Be sure to tell me a little something about yourself along the way 🙂

I thought it was time to share a few things about me – no fiction, just honest answers to the Proust questionnaire so that I can tell you a little something about me (and at the same time pretend I have finally made the back page of Vanity Fair magazine!!)

1. What is your idea of perfect happiness?

Clean sheets, cool pillow and a day you want to remember as you  are falling asleep …

2. What is your greatest fear?

Tangible: Spiders

Intangible: mediocrity

3. What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?

Listening to that critical voice from the left side of my brain

4. What is the trait you most deplore in others?

Blind following

5. Which living person do you most admire?

Hillary Clinton and Gloria Steinem for their advocacy. And Monica Bellucci for being a living work of art

Monica Bellucci at body, remember
The beautiful Monica Bellucci.

6. What is your greatest extravagance?

Perfume – I am obsessed with the scent of Tuberose and Jasmine, and wear my perfumes even to bed.

7. What is your current state of mind?

Slightly wondrous, slightly inebriated … anticipatory …

8. What do you consider the most overrated virtue?


9. On what occasion do you lie?

To save someone’s feelings

10. What do you most dislike about your appearance?

Short legs (but then Elizabeth Taylor had short legs, right?)

11. Which living person do you most despise?

Anyone who conspires to withhold rights from others or perpetuates sexual violence (I would like to go Jean Grey on them!!)

Jean Grey at body, remember
When I am angry I imagine doing this.

12. What is the quality you most like in a man?

Passion and wit

13. What is the quality you most like in a woman?

Passion and wit!!

14. Which words or phrases do you most overuse?

Fuck and I don’t agree

15. What or who is the greatest love of your life?

Writing (all other contenders know who they are!)

16. When and where were you happiest?

Wandering the streets of NYC for the first time

17. Which talent would you most like to have?

I wanted to be a broadway baby so singing and playing piano – I have a little talent with the former and zero with the latter 😦

Ruthie Henshall at body, remember
Ruthie Henshall – one of my favourite Broadway Babies!

18. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?

I’d be as fierce as my instinct tells me to be

19. What do you consider your greatest achievement?

That I am predominantly self-educated

20. If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be?

I would come back as a man … to see …

21. Where would you most like to live?

In a house with a tin roof, at the beach, with a field of horses (which probably means Byron Bay). With a trip to NYC every (white) Christmas!

22. What is your most treasured possession?

All of my books – they are my art, my furniture, my guideposts

23. What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?

Letting someone else decide your story

24. What is your favorite occupation?

Writer (I used to write this as my occupation on immigration forms when travelling – I am now telling the truth!!)

Rock Bublitz at body, remember
Getting closer …

25. What is your most marked characteristic?


26. What do you most value in your friends?

Individuality, and the way they only ever judge when required

27. Who are your favorite writers?

Anais Nin, Henry Miller, Jeanette Winterson, Milan Kundera, Alice Walker and Walt Whitman … SO many but they stand out tonight

28. Who is your hero of fiction?

Beatrice from Much Ado About Nothing (Oh, that I were a man!), and Scarlett O’Hara – I like my heroes flawed, passionate, resilient and ahead of their time. Also, Jean Grey. See above!

Scarlett O'Hara at body, remember
The eyebrow says it all!

29. Which historical figure do you most identify with?

Any woman burnt at the stake (I feel certain this would have happened to me)

30. Who are your heroes in real life?

The long line of women who came before me  – breaking the rules, keeping their identities, loving their men (and women!), raising even stronger women with every generation.

Also, Al Gore 😉

Rock Bublitz and Al Gore
Don’t we make a cute couple 😉

31. What are your favorite names?

Lily (for Phoebe Cates‘ character in Lace), Oskar (as in Schindler), and of course Maggie Valentine – my lead character whose name came about via Ruthie Henshall (her first name is Valentine) and Maggie from A Chorus Line (Your Maggie is missing you so …)

32. What is it that you most dislike?

The patriarchy. And assumptions.

33. What is your greatest regret?

Ummm … I want to say ‘je ne regrette rien’ … and actually I think that might be true.

34. How would you like to die?


35. What is your motto?

Why not (used to perfection in one of my favourite movies – Secretary)

“We write to taste life twice, in the moment and in retrospection”

– Anais Nin

33 thoughts on “About Me

  1. Ok so I started reading daily crap posted on FB and have stumbled onto you and your novel. I had to write to tell you what an amazing writer you are. I always knew there was something about you Jac but I just realised what that ‘something’ is… You are just so unique; so clever; so passionate; simply awe inspiring!! i wish you all the very best as a writer .. i will be waiting in line to buy your books!!

    1. Hello old friend!! Thank you so,so much for such a truly lovely thing to say. I’m going to come back to this any time I get doubtful (i.e. a lot!!) xx

  2. I started reading a profile absentmindedly and saw ‘atheist, feminist and writer’ and thought, ‘oh brilliant, this cat and I are on the same page…hmmm, who might this be?’.
    But of course! You’re just wonderful.

  3. I think you should check out a book called Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha. It completely changed the way I looked at relationships and monogamy in general. x

    1. Hi there! I love that book (go Bonobos!). I appreciate you taking the time to recommend it too. I also very much loved “Against Love” by Laura Kipnis – she is a very funny, thought-provoking writer xx

  4. I have just a couple of your posts, as I procrastinate on my own writing today! I love what I have read so far, and will come back in hopes of learning more about you, your views and some help on creating a fulfilling relationship with a man!

  5. 🙂 Your writing feels gorgeous to the bone.:) And the above number 23– is going to sit with me tonight as the truest thing I hadn’t put to words yet.

  6. The 35th birthday break up story really REALLY touched me! I’m also CP Cavafy crazy. ‘Hope the voyage is a long one,
    full of adventure, full of discovery.’ In my 31st year I am holding out on the belief that the perfect man is just around the corner. Loving your work lady! x

    1. Always wonderful to meet another Cavafy lover along the way! Thank you for stopping by – if I can even get close to the poignancy of his words (I’m trying!). Oh – and here’s to that corner! x

    1. Hiya – thanks for the question. I read what I aspire to write – literary fiction, usually leaning more to lyrical, slightly experimental stuff. I like stories of real life through a distorted lens. Or something like that 😉

  7. Ah, so many things you wrote here resonated with me… either because of my own similarity, or because while I am very different, they give a real sense of who you are, and fill me with affection for you, even though I don’t know you at all! The one that made my smile the widest was “21. Where would you most like to live?” because I live surrounded by paddocks of horses, in a gorgeous little cottage (though the roof isn’t tin), and down the lush valley I can see the beach… it’s a little corner of heaven on earth (though on a vastly different continent to yours – Africa), and I’m sure you’d love it too 🙂

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